The List

Something we are all told to do when we are looking for a partner is to write down a list of all the qualities we want this person to have. I have a slightly different take on this, which you can read about below:

For some of us it can be quite a long list, but I would urge you to narrow down this list to no more than 10 MUST HAVES.

When this is done, in the same vein make a list of all the things you cannot stand in a partner, and also narrow this down to no more than 10 CAN’T STANDS.

Now comes the interesting part:

Take your MUST HAVE shortlist, and list the qualities on this list which you yourself have! Most people admit that they themselves have only have three or four of the qualities they want in a partner …

In all fairness, we cannot expect something of another person that we do not or cannot deliver ourselves.

Now, take your CAN’T STAND shortlist, think carefully, and see if you can identify any of these traits in yourself! The world reflects us to ourselves, and if someone irritates us in some way, we often have that annoying characteristic lurking in our inner selves … It is important to be scrupulously honest with yourself.

According to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. The Universe may be trying to teach you something here.

As you can see, to be the kind of person who can attract the soulmate of their dreams, we have some work to do!

Let’s go ahead now and work on ourselves so that we can be happy, emotionally independent people who can be a tonic to our ideal partners.

© 2010 Marilyn Welch

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