The List

Something we are all told to do when we are looking for a partner is to write down a list of all the qualities we want this person to have. I have a slightly different take on this, which you can read about below: For some of us it can be quite a long list, but I would urge you to narrow down this list to no more than 5 MUST HAVES. When this is done, in the same vein make a list of all the things you cannot stand in a partner, and also narrow this down to no more than 5 CAN’T STANDS. Now comes the interesting part: Take your MUST HAVE shortlist, and list the qualities on this list which you yourself have! Most people admit that they themselves have only have one or two of the qualities they want in a partner … In all fairness, we cannot expect something of another person that we do not or cannot deliver ourselves. Now, take your CAN’T STAND shortlist, think carefully, and see if you can identify any of these traits in yourself! The world reflects us back to ourselves, and if someone irritates us in some way, we often have that annoying characteristic lurking in our inner selves … It is important to be scrupulously honest with yourself. According to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. The Universe may be trying to teach you something here. As you can see, to be the kind of person who can attract the soulmate of their dreams, we have some work to do! Let’s go ahead now and work on ourselves so that we can be happy, emotionally independent people who can be a tonic to our ideal partners. © 2010, 2012 Marilyn Welch. Would you love to meet your soulmate soon? A phenomenal one out of every three people who joins Perfect Strangers meets someone special within twelve months! If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you! Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought-after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details. You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.