Is your checklist getting too long?

We all have an idea of what we are looking for in a partner. Some of us know we’ll know instinctively when we meet this person, others have long lists of what they want. Which category do you fit into? Chemistry is something that rates highly with both men and women. It is this spark that is the glue that keeps a couple together. Chemistry is usually instantaneous, but it can certainly improve as time goes by. For those of us who have long lists, chemistry is something that occasionally makes us throw those lists out of the window! It is good to know what we want and don’t want when it comes to choosing our soulmate (or letting them choose us!). We should be aware of between two and five “must haves” and between two and five “can’t stands” at the most. We do, after all, know what makes us happy. The danger comes when our lists start getting too long. Sometimes we know exactly what we want down to the last ounce and will accept nothing else. This narrows down our choices considerably. Often this type of person does not even exist, and if they do, do we have any guarantees that they will like us? In our search for this elusive person we often discard very worthwhile candidates who will be excellent choices, but we are so set in our ideas that nobody else will do, no matter how wonderful they may be. It is always a good idea to keep a balance between knowing what we want and having an open mind. What could be nicer than meeting someone more unusual than our stereotypes we are hanging on to, and who opens up new and wonderful vistas that we never even dreamed of? Having set ideas can limit us and rob us of countless blessings. I dare you to be adventurous and let go of some of those preconceived ideas. I dare you further to enjoy the process and let dating and relationships be all the fun they can possibly be. We are the ones who will benefit if we just lighten up. © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!