Dating issues - various

Today I am going to cover some issues that I am often asked about: Why is it so difficult to find the perfect match these days? These days there are no longer arranged marriages, and people’s lists of what they want in a partner get bigger and better by the day, even to the point of being unrealistic. If people would just learn to love the person they find, and not have unrealistic expectations, they would be a lot happier. It seems that not only they, but the whole world must think their partner is wonderful. People are only human, after all, and one must realize that every person has good and bad character and personality traits. Is there an ideal partner out there for each of us? I believe there are several ideal partners out there for each one of us, it’s just a matter of finding them. But what we think is our ideal partner is often not the case and someone we may discard as irrelevant, may in actual fact be just the right partner for us. What do you find are the most important things one should have in common to be really compatible? Or is it not that important to have things in common? The most important thing to have in common is common values. A person will be loyal to his/her values before being loyal to a partner. Don’t underestimate the value of common values. What is the one thing that dooms any budding relationship? When one or both parties are in a hurry and take things too fast, the relationship is always on rocky ground. If you are not in a hurry, it usually augurs well for any relationship. How does one handle rejection? The important thing with rejection is not to take it personally. The reason you are rejected has usually 100% to do with the other person and their particular frame of reference and almost NOTHING to do with you at all. There will always be people who like you just the way you are, and at the same time there will always be people who find fault with you. I see this happening with my clients all the time. As many as there are people, there will be different opinions about them. These opinions have nothing to do with you, it is just how people perceive you, according to their own unique place where they are coming from. You remain unchanged, whilst all around you, different people perceive you differently. Therefore one should not take other people’s opinions, whether good or bad, too seriously. If you really think you can improve, then do something about it, but don’t be discouraged if you encounter rejection, simply move on to the next person to meet. Don’t: Be discouraged if you have difficulty finding that ideal partner. Do: Meet as many people as you can, and know that the right person is out there waiting for you. © 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, 49% of the clients who joined Perfect Strangers met someone special, many within a very few short months! Of these, 71% remain in their committed relationships. Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate.