Isn't it ironical that whenever we are anxious to have something, it just seems to run away from us all the time? In a similar vein, whenever we have felt ready to meet our soulmate, we are so impatient to do so, and we seem to find that despite how hard we try, our dating results in failure after failure.
I always tell my members to relax about dating and to just have fun. They should not be so keen to have results when they date, but just enjoy each moment for what it brings. I find that when they have this attitude, things somehow seem to fall into place, they enjoy themselves, and when the time is right, their soulmate just seems to fall into their lap!
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Thursday, August 6, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Men and Women Differ
Men and women differ in many ways, but two of the ways they differ are brought home to me very often:
Women are much more particular than men. Think of it. If you line up a whole lot of women against a wall and ask men to choose, they will find it very difficult, as they will like a lot of the women. Just line up a whole lot of men against a wall and ask women to choose, and they will only select one or two from the whole lot. This happens in nature as well.
Women commit to a relationship far quicker than men do. So often it happens that a man and a woman are dating on my database and one day the woman phones me and says she no longer wants to meet any more men because she and x are now seeing each other. Very often x phones me soon after to ask for another date!
It is a good thing that we are different - it makes life interesting!
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Women are much more particular than men. Think of it. If you line up a whole lot of women against a wall and ask men to choose, they will find it very difficult, as they will like a lot of the women. Just line up a whole lot of men against a wall and ask women to choose, and they will only select one or two from the whole lot. This happens in nature as well.
Women commit to a relationship far quicker than men do. So often it happens that a man and a woman are dating on my database and one day the woman phones me and says she no longer wants to meet any more men because she and x are now seeing each other. Very often x phones me soon after to ask for another date!
It is a good thing that we are different - it makes life interesting!
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Thursday, July 2, 2009
Love the person you find
We all find it easy to fall in love. It is such a euphoric experience. Everything seems to come naturally and we are swept away with our giddy feelings. Unfortunately this experience does not last. There comes a time when the things we once found so endearing in our partner now start to irritate us, and the person we once elevated falls from the platform we put them on.
We think we will gain happiness once more by finding someone else, or turning to a new hobby or worse, alcahol or drugs. Only to find that some time later, we are once again in the same boat, disillusioned and looking for something new.
Is it not better to learn to love the person you find? Love inevitably sends us someone who will remind us of our issues that we need to work through and there is no point in running away, as the next person we meet will invariably bring up those same issues. Better to work through these issues for once and for all and to have loved someone through thick and thin at the end of the day ... That someone that you once thought was such a problem may just turn out to be your soulmate and the partner of your dreams!
Visit my website to find a variety of quality partners from whom you can choose a soulmate!
We think we will gain happiness once more by finding someone else, or turning to a new hobby or worse, alcahol or drugs. Only to find that some time later, we are once again in the same boat, disillusioned and looking for something new.
Is it not better to learn to love the person you find? Love inevitably sends us someone who will remind us of our issues that we need to work through and there is no point in running away, as the next person we meet will invariably bring up those same issues. Better to work through these issues for once and for all and to have loved someone through thick and thin at the end of the day ... That someone that you once thought was such a problem may just turn out to be your soulmate and the partner of your dreams!
Visit my website to find a variety of quality partners from whom you can choose a soulmate!
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Learn to enjoy your own company
We all dream of the day that we will have a special partner who will keep us company through thick and thin. We feel somehow that he or she will complete us, make us whole, and that we will never be lonely again.
That may be true, but before we start looking for that partner, it would be a very good idea if we could learn to enjoy our own company first. Once we have a good self-image, and a certain degree of self-confidence, it is then usually easier to amuse ourselves when we are alone. We have then (hopefully) developed some good interests and maybe we even have a few passions that we are fulfilling. This makes us interesting people, people with a mission, who will then easily draw the right partner to us via the law of attraction.
The law of attraction is like a magnet, so if we desire to have good company, we must be good company ourselves and know how to keep ourselves busy with worthwhile endeavours. Then we have earned the right to have a partner who is also good company.
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That may be true, but before we start looking for that partner, it would be a very good idea if we could learn to enjoy our own company first. Once we have a good self-image, and a certain degree of self-confidence, it is then usually easier to amuse ourselves when we are alone. We have then (hopefully) developed some good interests and maybe we even have a few passions that we are fulfilling. This makes us interesting people, people with a mission, who will then easily draw the right partner to us via the law of attraction.
The law of attraction is like a magnet, so if we desire to have good company, we must be good company ourselves and know how to keep ourselves busy with worthwhile endeavours. Then we have earned the right to have a partner who is also good company.
Visit my website to find a partner who can be that good company for you!
Thursday, June 4, 2009
How does one handle rejection?
One of the most common things you will encounter when you are dating is rejection. The important thing with rejection is not to take it personally. The reason you are rejected has usually 100% to do with the other person and their particular frame of reference and almost NOTHING to do with you at all. There will always be people who like you just the way you are, and at the same time there will always be people who find fault with you. I see this happening with my clients all the time. As many as there are people, there will be different opinions about them. These opinions have nothing to do with you, it is just how people perceive you, according to their own unique place where they are coming from. You remain unchanged, whilst all around you, different people perceive you differently. Therefore one should not take other people’s opinions, whether good or bad, too seriously. So don’t be discouraged if you encounter rejection, simply move on to the next person to meet.
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Visit my website to meet exciting people of your calibre!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Never take people at face value
We all know the saying “You never get a second chance to make a first impression”, but first impressions can be very deceiving. People are generally on their best behaviour when one meets them, and the true person usually only emerges with time. One can liken getting to know a person with peeling an onion: there are many layers covering the core.
I nearly fell into this trap when I met my current partner, with whom I am very happy. When I first met him I thought (erroneously) that he was not my type, and more or less discouraged him from contacting me. It was a year later that we met again, and then I was more willing to give him the time of day, only to realise he was almost exactly what I had always been looking for in very many ways! The first time I met him he did not show all his cards, and I took him at face value, never realising what a diamond had crossed my path.
Men and women often make snap decisions about whether they are attracted to a person or not. Perhaps we would all find many more people to our liking if we would just give them a chance beyond the first meeting. Food for thought …
Visit my website to find out more about how to meet quality partners.
I nearly fell into this trap when I met my current partner, with whom I am very happy. When I first met him I thought (erroneously) that he was not my type, and more or less discouraged him from contacting me. It was a year later that we met again, and then I was more willing to give him the time of day, only to realise he was almost exactly what I had always been looking for in very many ways! The first time I met him he did not show all his cards, and I took him at face value, never realising what a diamond had crossed my path.
Men and women often make snap decisions about whether they are attracted to a person or not. Perhaps we would all find many more people to our liking if we would just give them a chance beyond the first meeting. Food for thought …
Visit my website to find out more about how to meet quality partners.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Never Be Hasty
So often it happens that someone comes onto my books and is really in a hurry to meet someone special. That is when red flags start waving in my head and I realise that this person is on the wrong track. While it is true that my clients often do pair up quickly, it is not a good thing when someone is hasty.
When you want to meet someone quickly, you are likely to make snap decisions which are not based on a good foundation. You do not get to know your partner well before committing to a relationship and this can lead to big regrets later. It is also likely that there are things you have not sorted out in your own life, which is essential before committing to a relationship.
When my clients relax and take time with their dating, it’s almost as if they get into a kind of “flow”, and things they want seem to come naturally to them. If they are anxious and in a hurry, their partners seem to flee from them.
So sort out in your mind what is bothering you, and approach dating without being too hung up on results or outcomes. Have fun and enjoy each moment for what it is, and your dating will take care of itself.
Visit my website to find out more about this sensible way of going about dating.
When you want to meet someone quickly, you are likely to make snap decisions which are not based on a good foundation. You do not get to know your partner well before committing to a relationship and this can lead to big regrets later. It is also likely that there are things you have not sorted out in your own life, which is essential before committing to a relationship.
When my clients relax and take time with their dating, it’s almost as if they get into a kind of “flow”, and things they want seem to come naturally to them. If they are anxious and in a hurry, their partners seem to flee from them.
So sort out in your mind what is bothering you, and approach dating without being too hung up on results or outcomes. Have fun and enjoy each moment for what it is, and your dating will take care of itself.
Visit my website to find out more about this sensible way of going about dating.
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