Men and women connect differently

Some time back, a good friend of mine, Tessa*, told me an amusing story, which graphically illustrates a basic difference between men and women when it comes to connecting. She had had a difficult week emotionally and was looking forward to seeing her boyfriend, Gary* that particular night. When he arrived, there were a whole lot of arrangements they had to attend to, and after that he said he would like to watch TV. Tessa wanted to tell him about everything that had been happening to her that week, but he did not pick up that she was a bit agitated, thought that everything was as per normal and thought it would be nice to watch TV. Tessa knew it was time for his favourite program, so she wisely decided to say nothing, but the next day she phoned him and said they should have coffee at their favourite coffee shop as there had not been time to really talk to him the night before. He was a bit surprised, but she explained to him in a very nice way that she actually needed him to listen to what she had been up to. They had a lovely coffee date: She talked her heart out and he learned something he did not know about the women he loves. The issue was thus resolved in a very pleasant way. Men, for example, can happily go fishing with other men and hardly say anything to each other. They will go home and feel they have “connected”. Women need to talk their hearts and souls out to someone who is close to them before they feel “connected”. Men like to do things, women like to talk. We can learn a lot about the opposite sex by being open to the way they like to handle things. If you understand this, you and your partner can learn to handle some of the basic communication issues in a way that satisfies both of you. Neither party is right nor wrong, men and women are just different. Make the most of your differences – they make life fun! * Names have been changed. © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!