All that glitters is not gold

In my thirteen years of experience as a professional dating service owner, I have come across many people who are attracted by material things. For example, a woman may say she would like to meet a good-looking hunk with lots of money and a man may say he wants to meet a woman who is slim and gorgeous.

I see from my vantage point of getting to know my clients that this is often a recipe for disaster. The women often find that this kind of man does not appreciate them or treat them well. The men often find that the stunning looking women turn out to be bitches who make their lives a misery.

The men and women who look for these qualities often go through a series of failed relationships before they learn to look more for the inner qualities that make a person a good romantic partner. It is not to say that good-looking hunks with lots of money and slim, gorgeous women are all bad. My advice is just to be careful. You may find instead that the so-called “boring” people make the best life partners.

I myself fell into this trap two years ago when I met the man I am happy with today. I at first thought he was very unexciting. As I got to know him, however, I found that in the beginning he did not play all his cards. As time went by I discovered absolutely wonderful things about him which are not obvious when you first get to know him. Today I can honestly say he is the most fabulous partner and that we are very well suited! (NB: He is not a rich, good-looking hunk!!)

Everyone has something unique and wonderful to offer. So let’s not judge a book by its cover and be more flexible in our choices. We may just be very pleasantly surprised! © 2010

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