Does your partner meet your needs?

We all dream of that special partner who will love and understand us and meet all our needs. We also all need to come down to earth and realise that we as well as our partners are both imperfect human beings and that it is totally impossible for one person to meet ALL our needs.

So how do we find that someone special and cultivate an atmosphere in which we can both be happy?

It takes quite a while to get to know someone and to find out if we can be happy with them or not. If after six months we feel that our partner meets 80% of our needs, we are indeed fortunate. We also need to bear in mind that as time goes by our needs change and develop, so that is an added complication. If we are not the demanding type and live in gratitude, our needs will be less. We will focus on what is already good and build on that. Then our relationship goes in an upward spiral and we are very blessed.

No matter how wonderful our partner is, he/she will not be able to meet all our needs. It is up to us to fulfil our own needs or find same-sex friends and family who will meet the gap. That is why it is important to be a well-rounded person before you enter any romantic relationship. If one comes into a new relationship as a happy and whole person, and already knows how to get one’s needs met through a variety of different people, it takes pressure off the relationship, things are more likely to run smoothly and our relationship will be easy and pleasurable.

It is also important to be happy with the fact that in anything worthwhile in life we cannot have our cake and eat it. We need to be faithful to our partners if we want a winning relationship. If we want a fulfilling relationship, it may be a good idea to give up intimate friendships with others of the opposite sex. The idea is to give up these friendships for something that is better and more rewarding. Our partner will always appreciate our fidelity. Once we have made peace with this concept, we will be far happier in our relationship.

Don’t: Expect your partner to be perfect

Do: Practice appreciation and fidelity in your relationship

© 2010 Marilyn Welch

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