Often clients who join my professional dating service, Perfect Strangers, tell me that they like to “give their all” in a relationship, or that they like really “spoiling” their partner. Despite this dedicated approach, they have not managed to be in a successful relationship. Why is this?
Too often when we go into a relationship, we find that either we or our partner or giving too much. This is a recipe for failure, as a successful relationship is a balanced relationship, where there is equal giving and receiving.
When we give more than our partners, we like to think we want nothing in return, but actually deep down we want a return on our investment very badly, and in the long term we feel cheated if our giving has not been reciprocated.
Worse still, our partner may see our giving as a means whereby they are controlled, and they may feel obligated to return the favours in some way, which takes away from the freedom of a loving relationship.
Women especially tend to give more in a relationship. It is their natural instinct as nurturers and caregivers. This giving of their all often results in losing the man of their dreams, as men naturally like to be the hunters.
Similarly, a man who spoils his girlfriend or wife disproportionately may find that his favours are not appreciated and that she takes him for granted. The relationship is not in balance and love flies out the window.
This world is not perfect, but in this world everything is in perfect balance. If we want our relationship to be successful, we need to be vigilant about keeping it in good balance. Apply this principle of balance with the giving and receiving in your relationship. You will be in tune with the natural harmony of the universe and your relationship is more likely to go in an upward spiral.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
I am making a special once-off Christmas offer to clients who enrol with Perfect Strangers between now and 31 December 2011: In addition to their normal membership, each client will also receive:
a) 20 Written Laser "Prepare to Meet Your Soulmate" Coaching sessions (one per week in your personal email inbox)(Value R1500-00). These inspiring teachings will coach you through any stumbling blocks you may experience in attracting and keeping the love of your life. (It will be the first time I am publishing these teachings!)
b) Each client will receive 2 extra months on their membership which will give them an additional window to meet their soulmate
NB: The first 20 clients who enrol will each receive a fabulous surprise bonus (Value R300). Remember to ask for this bonus when you apply.
Make use of this special offer before 31 December 2011 by contacting me for a FREE one-hour “Find Your Soulmate” session. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Marilyn Welch can be contacted personally on 0825598322 or at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
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