Instant Gratification

We live in the world of fast food and quick fixes. Nobody believes in waiting for anything anymore. We set goals and deadlines and are hell-bent on adhering to them. We are living in a world where we MAKE things happen. Whatever happened to the art of LETTING or ALLOWING thing to happen? It seems as if there is no room for the adventure of allowing one’s Creator to take care of things. This unseen force often does things better and in far grander style than we could ever imagine, yet we seldom, if ever, let go and let God … When it comes to romantic love and looking for our soulmate, we are no different. Often we have to grow into the state of readiness for this to happen. We ignore this fact, however, and chafe with impatience because the search is taking too long. We become frustrated when we keep on meeting people who are “wrong”, forgetting that we are attracting these people because there are issues we still need to work through before we will attract that special and longed-for person. Unfortunately there are no quick fixes when it comes to finding our life’s partner. Here snap decisions can shoot us in the foot. Rather let time show out to us the right person. Sometimes we just have to play life out before it becomes clear to us which person to choose, or as it often happens, which person chooses us! This endless waiting game can instil in us some very valuable qualities, such as consideration and humility. It can teach us to use our common sense and to open our eyes. With time, warning signals also become easier to read. Often when a relationship starts we turn a blind eye to things that are obviously wrong simply because we so badly want a steady partner. The waiting game, although frustrating, generally sorts out what is best for us. This is why I always say to my clients that when it comes to romance, we need to set a few parameters in place and then just let things happen. If we push fruit ripe, it is never as delicious as fruit which ripens naturally on the tree. It’s exactly the same with our love lives. Here patience is a winning recipe. When it comes to true love there simply are no shortcuts. Love needs to stand the test of time, and indeed we should let it do so when we are looking for our soulmate. I wish you luck in your search. © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!