The value of waiting

We all want what we want immediately. These are the days of “quick fixes” and instant gratification. We are trained to find the fastest, easiest solution to all of our problems. We tend to “push fruit ripe” rather than wait for it to fall off the tree into our hand. Nowhere is this more true than in the field of romantic relationships. We are so hell-bent on finding someone special that we often don’t wait to really get to know our partners well before we tie the knot. We are bombarded with movies where people sleep together on the first night and good old-fashioned common sense seems to have flown out of the window. Sometimes in life, however, it pays to put aside the pushing and striving, and to just sit tight and wait. Wait for life to play itself out. Wait for your Creator to organise things. Wait for the fruit to ripen slowly and naturally. When we do this, we often find ourselves in a zone where what we want is slowly and steadily brought to our feet. Decisions are made by life itself and we find ourselves “in the flow”. We acquire great wisdom by holding back, and events and people reveal themselves like never before. Because we are not rushing into things, we have time to “smell the coffee”, get to know ourselves and others and, most importantly, we start enjoying the present moment. Next time you find yourself in a hurry to meet someone special or to push your partner into a commitment before he/she is ready, take a step backwards and think how much better the relationship will be if you let things develop slowly and naturally. Make it a habit in all of your endeavours to let life reveal itself to you first before you start pushing and manipulating things to go your way. You will use far less energy if you LET life and relationships happen rather than if you MAKE them happen. By doing this you respect the very important principle of giving your partner FREEDOM. We all want freedom ourselves, and it will come to us if we allow others to have it. There is value in waiting, despite what modern life is telling us. I challenge you to try it out for yourself! © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!