Retain your essence

One of the things that often happen when someone goes into a relationship, is that he/she seems to merge into the personality of his/her partner and often takes on some/many of the partner’s characteristics. One starts saying the same things, picks up the same mannerisms, goes after the same hobbies etc. By doing this, we change, and after a while we are no longer the person our partner fell in love with! Little wonder so many relationships fail and people fall out of love. We are all individuals and are made to stand out, not blend in. Each of us has something unique to offer our partners and bring to the relationship. This uniqueness makes us special and irreplaceable. Why on earth do we tone it down? One of the reasons we may do this is because of a poor self-image. We think we are not good enough just as we are. This may be our own opinion, but if we are thinking along these lines we are simply believing a lie. We ourselves do not go around thinking other people are not good enough, and they do not walk around thinking we are not good enough. It is a belief that we ourselves fabricate that keeps us thinking the worst of ourselves. This can hardly be called a worthwhile pursuit. Snap out of it and own your good points. Show them off to the world and develop them further. Make a point of always being your best self, and not a second-rate version of someone else. Your essence or soul is your own special blend of perfume and is your gift to the world. The world is not complete without you. You are a part of the music of the universe. Be visible and audible and show off your best you. This is the best way to be a happy individual and to make your partner happy as well. Don’t: Hide your light under a bushel Do: Always be your irresistible, irreplaceable self © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!