Accept your partner as they are

Sometimes in the course of my work, I am confronted with the fact that people want their partners to change. Of course, no one will ever be 100% what you are looking for, but there comes a time when you need to weigh up all the factors and decide to be happy with the partner you have, if you decide to stay with them.

One also needs to remember, if you want someone to change, you yourself need to change first before you can expect your partner to do any changing. Once they see that you are willing to put in an effort, they are far more likely to put in an effort themselves.

The people who irritate you are often your best life teachers. Usually the thing that gets to you is something in the depths of your very own persona that you do not like. It is your partner who is reflecting this back to you, and that is very often why you want them to change!

If you let go of your own issues, you will also find that it is easier to accept your partner as they are. Serenity will then surround you and you will find it easier to be grateful for him/her. You will be more content with life in general.

This is also a chance to practise some unconditional love. This is the kind of love you usually crave for yourself. What you give out comes back to you, so this is the best way to go.

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How to approach a relationship

I am often asked: "Will I recognise my soulmate immediately or will it take time to realise if my partner is my true soulmate?"

My instinct is to go for the second option. So often we meet people we are instantly attracted to, only to find with time that they make a disastrous partner. The chemistry is there in a big way, but so are the multiple problems that go with it. It is important to have some kind of spark between the two of you, but not at such a cost.

If you take the time to get to know someone, something very special can happen between the two of you. The emphasis here is on time and lots of it. God has plenty of time and it is a good thing to let your universe gently unfold. Savour each moment of getting to know someone and don't be results oriented. Enjoy what each day brings to your relationship and don't let issues and baggage drag you down.

If you have this approach, you will have a deep-seated serenity and you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that your life is perfect and that everything is happening the way it should. You will be contented with your life in general and you will attract good into it.

It's good that we don't know the future, because this makes life an adventure. It is a friendly universe and God is definitely working things out for the good of all of us. Just trust that this applies to your love life as well!

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