SOULMATE. The word rings nicely in our ears. We all want someone we can live with happily ever after. We all want to feel that “God’s in His heaven, all’s right with the world”. But when we look at everything going on around us it is easy to lose our focus.
How do we recognise our own true soulmate?
I know that I was married to my soulmate. He was not rich or good-looking, but he had a heart of gold and treated me with the utmost kindness. He was totally reliable and I always knew that I could trust him. He held down a dynamic job and was well-liked and respected by everyone he knew. He did all the shopping and cooked for me almost every night. I will always have good memories of him.
My friend, Vera*, is also a very fortunate woman. She is of Danish descent and has their typical blonde hair, blue eyes and startling good looks. She has a stunning personality and a very warm heart. There is only one possible drawback: she is very fat. But her boyfriend is head over heels in love with her and for him there will never be any other woman.
So for all of us who have preconceived ideas about what our soulmate should look like or what they should own, think again. Our Creator is our actual matchmaker, and if he has organised a match for you, it does not matter whether this person is tall or short, fat or thin, rich or poor, black or white. When we KNOW we have met our soulmate, nothing else matters. When we KNOW we have met this person we need to get down on our knees and thank our Maker for all He has given us.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Visit my website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
* Name has been changed.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Build a good foundation in your relationship
Most of us want everything yesterday. Today’s world is based on instant gratification. One can compare this to building a house. We want to put in a jacuzzi and plan the garden before building solid foundations and giving proper attention and care to every room in the house. Of course, such an approach is doomed to fail. We see it all around us: failed relationships, failed business ventures, and so the list goes on.
How can we remedy this syndrome?
The key is to get back to basics. Most of us have become so sidetracked we have even forgotten what the basics are! Let me list just three:
1. Integrity. We all want partners who are honest and don’t lie to us. We need to be this kind of person ourself before we can expect to attract someone like this. (Remember the Law of Attraction, which states that like attracts like, is absolute.)
2. Kindness. There are so few people in the world who are truly kind that the ones that are stick out like a sore thumb. Be this kind of person and you will then discover that the universe is a friendly place.
3. Hard Work. We all want something for nothing, but the universe simply doesn’t work this way. When something is just given to us, we tend not to appreciate it. If we work long and hard for it, and earn it literally by the sweat of our brow, it is ours forever!
These are just three basic rules to keep in mind. I am sure you can think of more. Don’t just think about them, practise them. Do it now.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Visit my website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
How can we remedy this syndrome?
The key is to get back to basics. Most of us have become so sidetracked we have even forgotten what the basics are! Let me list just three:
1. Integrity. We all want partners who are honest and don’t lie to us. We need to be this kind of person ourself before we can expect to attract someone like this. (Remember the Law of Attraction, which states that like attracts like, is absolute.)
2. Kindness. There are so few people in the world who are truly kind that the ones that are stick out like a sore thumb. Be this kind of person and you will then discover that the universe is a friendly place.
3. Hard Work. We all want something for nothing, but the universe simply doesn’t work this way. When something is just given to us, we tend not to appreciate it. If we work long and hard for it, and earn it literally by the sweat of our brow, it is ours forever!
These are just three basic rules to keep in mind. I am sure you can think of more. Don’t just think about them, practise them. Do it now.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Visit my website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Give the best, expect the best
Three things I know for sure in this life:
1. This world may not be perfect, but it is in perfect balance
2. If you sow onions, you are not going to get potatoes
3. Time is an illusion
Let me elaborate:
Most of us go into a relationship expecting the best but not always giving the best. In other words we enter this relationship starting with an imbalance. It stands to reason that the scales are going to tip against our favour. Exactly the opposite is also true: if we give the best but do not expect the best, we are also going to be shortchanged. People invariably live up to our expectations! So it stands to reason that we should all give our best in a relationship and expect the best from the other person.
If we do this, and for some reason, our partner lets us down, then is the only time we can walk away when the time is right with absolutely no regrets. We will then know that we have sowed something good, that we can still expect to reap something good, to the exact measure that we invested, but that we will reap elsewhere in the fullness of time.
The Universe unfolds, and very gently. It does not push or demand things of us, but brings them to us, if we will just have patience. We always want things yesterday, but that is not God’s way. His timing is perfectly precise and we need to trust, have faith and wait. The present is all we have, and we have everything we need (not necessarily what we want) in this very moment. Live for now, do your best and tomorrow will take care of you!
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Visit my professional dating service website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
1. This world may not be perfect, but it is in perfect balance
2. If you sow onions, you are not going to get potatoes
3. Time is an illusion
Let me elaborate:
Most of us go into a relationship expecting the best but not always giving the best. In other words we enter this relationship starting with an imbalance. It stands to reason that the scales are going to tip against our favour. Exactly the opposite is also true: if we give the best but do not expect the best, we are also going to be shortchanged. People invariably live up to our expectations! So it stands to reason that we should all give our best in a relationship and expect the best from the other person.
If we do this, and for some reason, our partner lets us down, then is the only time we can walk away when the time is right with absolutely no regrets. We will then know that we have sowed something good, that we can still expect to reap something good, to the exact measure that we invested, but that we will reap elsewhere in the fullness of time.
The Universe unfolds, and very gently. It does not push or demand things of us, but brings them to us, if we will just have patience. We always want things yesterday, but that is not God’s way. His timing is perfectly precise and we need to trust, have faith and wait. The present is all we have, and we have everything we need (not necessarily what we want) in this very moment. Live for now, do your best and tomorrow will take care of you!
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Visit my professional dating service website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
The Chase
In my profession as a dating service owner and relationship coach, I see many people chasing after romance. When I look a little deeper, I see that this chase pertains to their whole lives. We are always striving towards a goal or goals, looking to improve or change our lot in life. Do we ever stop and realise that life might just be perfect right this very second?
Why are we never satisfied with what we already have?
Perhaps the media is largely responsible for this phenomenon. We are forever lured into the cycle of wanting and buying. Advertising messages bombard us from the moment we open our eyes in the morning until we close them again to sleep that night. There are gurus we look up to who are constantly telling us how to live our lives a better way – usually to the advantage of their pockets.
But what if life is perfect right now? What if we have everything we will ever need at this very moment? What if we practised a little gratitude and realised how blessed we are currently? What if we dropped all our attachments to the results we are always striving after and just enjoyed the present in all its splendour?
Hurry, hurry, hurry. Buy, buy, buy. That’s the message the world is screaming in our ears. I say enough! Drop the attachments. Focus on the present. And then something miraculous starts to happen. Instead of you chasing after what you so desperately desire, those very things slowly but surely start coming your way, literally arriving in your lap! Doors open, soulmates materialise and you realise all you really need to do is to relax and let the Universe open up for you. And it does so in much grander style than you could ever arrange by yourself!
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Visit my website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
Why are we never satisfied with what we already have?
Perhaps the media is largely responsible for this phenomenon. We are forever lured into the cycle of wanting and buying. Advertising messages bombard us from the moment we open our eyes in the morning until we close them again to sleep that night. There are gurus we look up to who are constantly telling us how to live our lives a better way – usually to the advantage of their pockets.
But what if life is perfect right now? What if we have everything we will ever need at this very moment? What if we practised a little gratitude and realised how blessed we are currently? What if we dropped all our attachments to the results we are always striving after and just enjoyed the present in all its splendour?
Hurry, hurry, hurry. Buy, buy, buy. That’s the message the world is screaming in our ears. I say enough! Drop the attachments. Focus on the present. And then something miraculous starts to happen. Instead of you chasing after what you so desperately desire, those very things slowly but surely start coming your way, literally arriving in your lap! Doors open, soulmates materialise and you realise all you really need to do is to relax and let the Universe open up for you. And it does so in much grander style than you could ever arrange by yourself!
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Visit my website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!
Visit the Coaching section of my website for practical, no-nonsense dating and relationship advice.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following wording with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Dating Service and a sought after Relationship Coach specialising in social skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details on the Contact Us / Register page.
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