Men and women connect differently

Some time back, a good friend of mine, Tessa*, told me an amusing story, which graphically illustrates a basic difference between men and women when it comes to connecting. She had had a difficult week emotionally and was looking forward to seeing her boyfriend, Gary* that particular night. When he arrived, there were a whole lot of arrangements they had to attend to, and after that he said he would like to watch TV. Tessa wanted to tell him about everything that had been happening to her that week, but he did not pick up that she was a bit agitated, thought that everything was as per normal and thought it would be nice to watch TV. Tessa knew it was time for his favourite program, so she wisely decided to say nothing, but the next day she phoned him and said they should have coffee at their favourite coffee shop as there had not been time to really talk to him the night before. He was a bit surprised, but she explained to him in a very nice way that she actually needed him to listen to what she had been up to. They had a lovely coffee date: She talked her heart out and he learned something he did not know about the women he loves. The issue was thus resolved in a very pleasant way. Men, for example, can happily go fishing with other men and hardly say anything to each other. They will go home and feel they have “connected”. Women need to talk their hearts and souls out to someone who is close to them before they feel “connected”. Men like to do things, women like to talk. We can learn a lot about the opposite sex by being open to the way they like to handle things. If you understand this, you and your partner can learn to handle some of the basic communication issues in a way that satisfies both of you. Neither party is right nor wrong, men and women are just different. Make the most of your differences – they make life fun! * Names have been changed. © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!

Innovation in a Relationship

Most of us would like to be in an exclusive romantic relationship, if we are not already happily married. We spend a lot of our thoughts on just how wonderful this relationship might be and put a lot of our time and energies into achieving this end. Few of us realise that finding a partner is just the start. Keeping your partner and maintaining a happy relationship is a whole different ballgame! One of the things that is vitally important in any relationship is to always keep it new and interesting. We would not like to eat the same food every day and similarly in a relationship, we have to constantly and consistently try different approaches to improve what we have already built up. This causes the relationship to go in an upward spiral and is likely to hold our partner’s positive attention. Being in a routine and being predictable does provide infrastructure, but there comes a time when a healthy departure from the norm is like an oasis to a relationship that has gone stale. Are we operating in a groove? It’s painful to step out of one’s comfort zone, but it often has very rewarding results. Does your partner think he/she knows you inside out? Provide a few surprises and even practise being a little “scarce”, as less can definitely mean more in the longer term! In order to have this kind of approach, we first need to work on ourselves. Sometimes we think that our partner should be more interesting, never even dreaming that we ourselves could be more interesting. The Law of Attraction is always working and we all know that we reap what we sow. Work on your hobbies, interests, family and friends outside of your relationship. The more versatile you are, the more intriguing a person you will be, always creating new avenues to explore. This augurs well for any relationship, as you can take your partner with and consistently enjoy new adventures together. When you do this, your relationship is likely to be stimulating and rewarding, and your partner, whether you are married, engaged or still single, is most probably going to stay for the long haul. © 2010, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Society and in 2012, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!

The Chase

In my profession as an expert matchmaker, I see many people chasing after romance. When I look a little deeper, I see that this chase pertains to their whole lives. We are always striving towards a goal or goals, looking to improve or change our lot in life. Do we ever stop and realise that life might just be perfect right this very second? Why are we never satisfied with what we already have? Perhaps the media is largely responsible for this phenomenon. We are forever lured into the cycle of wanting and buying. Advertising messages bombard us from the moment we open our eyes in the morning until we close them again to sleep that night. There are gurus we look up to who are constantly telling us how to live our lives a better way – usually to the advantage of their pockets. But what if life is perfect right now? What if we have everything we will ever need at this very moment? What if we practised a little gratitude and realised how blessed we are currently? What if we dropped all our attachments to the results we are always striving after and just enjoyed the present in all its splendour? Hurry, hurry, hurry. Buy, buy, buy. That’s the message the world is screaming in our ears. I say enough! Drop the attachments. Focus on the present. And then something miraculous starts to happen. Instead of you chasing after what you so desperately desire, those very things slowly but surely start coming your way, literally arriving in your lap! Doors open, soulmates materialise and you realise all you really need to do is to rather relax and let the Universe bring things to you. And it does so in much grander style than you could ever arrange by yourself! © 2010, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Would you love to meet your soulmate in 2013? A phenomenal one out of every three people who joins Perfect Strangers meets someone special within twelve months! If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you! Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought-after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details. You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.