As a professional dating service owner, I get to see the “wish lists” of my clients. One of the things they often say is “I need someone who will give me space”. Sometimes we think that because we want to see someone as often as possible, that they want the same thing. This is not always the case.
When a relationship is new, we cannot see enough of our partner, and this is just the time when we should start practising the art of giving them space. Even the Bible says that we should not visit our neighbours too often because they will tire of us and start to despise us! It is true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you want your partner to really crave your company, without playing games, try being a little scarce. It works nearly every time!
Paired with giving your partner space is giving him/her freedom. When my husband was still alive he gave me all the space and freedom I could possibly have desired. And do you know what? I didn’t want to go anywhere! But if he had cramped my style and been possessive I would have found every excuse under the sun to just get away. That is how we human beings are wired and this is just one of the things it would do us all good to remember when we want a relationship to work.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch. Updated 2012.
Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
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You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Get out of your comfort zone
At some stage or other, most of us are in a rut when it comes to our love lives. It is very comfortable to stay just where we are and watch the world go by. Unfortunately this will not bring us any closer to our dream of having someone special.
Like with anything else in this life, if we want something worthwhile, we have to make the effort. Make the effort to be our most attractive selves and make the effort to find a way of meeting partners and then go out and do it. Why oh why do we procrastinate so much?
Sometimes the variety of ways in which we can meet someone is so vast, that this itself paralyses us: we don’t know where to start. Within my very own service, I find that people who join the club often feel very apprehensive the first couple of times they go out and meet the partners I provide for them. Then after a few dates, they say “Why didn’t I do this ages ago? It is so easy and convenient and there is nothing to it!” And usually very soon they have made a few friends and are on their way to meeting their soulmate.
So don’t keep putting it off. Make that move that will bring you what you want. Visit my website to make use of a very simple and timesaving way to meet potential partners and never look back!
© 2009 Updated 2012 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Like with anything else in this life, if we want something worthwhile, we have to make the effort. Make the effort to be our most attractive selves and make the effort to find a way of meeting partners and then go out and do it. Why oh why do we procrastinate so much?
Sometimes the variety of ways in which we can meet someone is so vast, that this itself paralyses us: we don’t know where to start. Within my very own service, I find that people who join the club often feel very apprehensive the first couple of times they go out and meet the partners I provide for them. Then after a few dates, they say “Why didn’t I do this ages ago? It is so easy and convenient and there is nothing to it!” And usually very soon they have made a few friends and are on their way to meeting their soulmate.
So don’t keep putting it off. Make that move that will bring you what you want. Visit my website to make use of a very simple and timesaving way to meet potential partners and never look back!
© 2009 Updated 2012 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Focus on your partner's good points
When a relationship is new, it is all too easy to see only the good in one’s partner. One sees him/her through rose-tinted spectacles and we are very excited about having this person in our life.
As time goes by, however, the spectacles come off and we see this person in a more realistic perspective, warts and all. If you really care for him/her, it is very important to focus on your partner’s good points and not the bad ones. If your relationship is generally a happy one, what you focus on, you’ll get more of and if you turn a blind eye to the bad points, they will tend to fade away. If there is something you cannot tolerate, deal with it and move on, but if you dwell on it, it will only get worse.
We make ourselves unhappy by thinking about negative things, so not only is it good for our relationship to be positive, it is also good for us personally. Treat a person as if they are wonderful, and they will tend to live up to your expectations.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
As time goes by, however, the spectacles come off and we see this person in a more realistic perspective, warts and all. If you really care for him/her, it is very important to focus on your partner’s good points and not the bad ones. If your relationship is generally a happy one, what you focus on, you’ll get more of and if you turn a blind eye to the bad points, they will tend to fade away. If there is something you cannot tolerate, deal with it and move on, but if you dwell on it, it will only get worse.
We make ourselves unhappy by thinking about negative things, so not only is it good for our relationship to be positive, it is also good for us personally. Treat a person as if they are wonderful, and they will tend to live up to your expectations.
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Friday, February 3, 2012
Expect the best
Late one Friday afternoon as I was preparing for what was going to be a wonderful weekend, the phone rang and it was Louise*, one of my clients. I had hardly greeted her when she went into a tirade about the last person I had introduced her to. She hauled me over the coals and complained loud and long about all the people on my books.
Reeling from the shock, I felt stunned, because another client of mine, Anne*, who had a similar high-profile (both were early 40’s, very attractive and CEO’s of their companies), had met exactly the same people (also high-profile professionals and successful entrepreneurs), and had enjoyed herself immensely in the process. Anne had also always taken the time to thank me for introducing her to such nice men and they had liked her a lot as well.
They had met exactly the same people, but how Louise and Anne saw them differed like night and day. Anne was always prepared to believe the best of people and they never disappointed her. Louise was looking for fault and had a critical spirit, so people never lived up to her expectations. I have since lost contact with Louise and doubt if she has found happiness. Anne is today engaged to Fred*, who is the man of her dreams, and is excited about building a future with him.
The above true stories have brought home to me that our attitude towards life and people is of paramount importance. We reap what we sow and like a magnet, we attract people to ourselves who have similar mindsets. If we work on ourselves to be the best we can be, we can confidently expect to make friends with the best kind of people. I have found that people who place their full trust in me as a matchmaker invariably go on to meet the partner of their dreams.
* Names have been changed
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
Reeling from the shock, I felt stunned, because another client of mine, Anne*, who had a similar high-profile (both were early 40’s, very attractive and CEO’s of their companies), had met exactly the same people (also high-profile professionals and successful entrepreneurs), and had enjoyed herself immensely in the process. Anne had also always taken the time to thank me for introducing her to such nice men and they had liked her a lot as well.
They had met exactly the same people, but how Louise and Anne saw them differed like night and day. Anne was always prepared to believe the best of people and they never disappointed her. Louise was looking for fault and had a critical spirit, so people never lived up to her expectations. I have since lost contact with Louise and doubt if she has found happiness. Anne is today engaged to Fred*, who is the man of her dreams, and is excited about building a future with him.
The above true stories have brought home to me that our attitude towards life and people is of paramount importance. We reap what we sow and like a magnet, we attract people to ourselves who have similar mindsets. If we work on ourselves to be the best we can be, we can confidently expect to make friends with the best kind of people. I have found that people who place their full trust in me as a matchmaker invariably go on to meet the partner of their dreams.
* Names have been changed
© 2010 Marilyn Welch
Would you love to meet your soulmate this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details.
You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.
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