The value of waiting

We all want what we want immediately. These are the days of “quick fixes” and instant gratification. We are trained to find the fastest, easiest solution to all of our problems. We tend to “push fruit ripe” rather than wait for it to fall off the tree into our hand. Nowhere is this more true than in the field of romantic relationships. We are so hell-bent on finding someone special that we often don’t wait to really get to know our partners well before we tie the knot. We are bombarded with movies where people sleep together on the first night and good old-fashioned common sense seems to have flown out of the window. Sometimes in life, however, it pays to put aside the pushing and striving, and to just sit tight and wait. Wait for life to play itself out. Wait for your Creator to organise things. Wait for the fruit to ripen slowly and naturally. When we do this, we often find ourselves in a zone where what we want is slowly and steadily brought to our feet. Decisions are made by life itself and we find ourselves “in the flow”. We acquire great wisdom by holding back, and events and people reveal themselves like never before. Because we are not rushing into things, we have time to “smell the coffee”, get to know ourselves and others and, most importantly, we start enjoying the present moment. Next time you find yourself in a hurry to meet someone special or to push your partner into a commitment before he/she is ready, take a step backwards and think how much better the relationship will be if you let things develop slowly and naturally. Make it a habit in all of your endeavours to let life reveal itself to you first before you start pushing and manipulating things to go your way. You will use far less energy if you LET life and relationships happen rather than if you MAKE them happen. By doing this you respect the very important principle of giving your partner FREEDOM. We all want freedom ourselves, and it will come to us if we allow others to have it. There is value in waiting, despite what modern life is telling us. I challenge you to try it out for yourself! © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!

Instant Gratification

We live in the world of fast food and quick fixes. Nobody believes in waiting for anything anymore. We set goals and deadlines and are hell-bent on adhering to them. We are living in a world where we MAKE things happen. Whatever happened to the art of LETTING or ALLOWING thing to happen? It seems as if there is no room for the adventure of allowing one’s Creator to take care of things. This unseen force often does things better and in far grander style than we could ever imagine, yet we seldom, if ever, let go and let God … When it comes to romantic love and looking for our soulmate, we are no different. Often we have to grow into the state of readiness for this to happen. We ignore this fact, however, and chafe with impatience because the search is taking too long. We become frustrated when we keep on meeting people who are “wrong”, forgetting that we are attracting these people because there are issues we still need to work through before we will attract that special and longed-for person. Unfortunately there are no quick fixes when it comes to finding our life’s partner. Here snap decisions can shoot us in the foot. Rather let time show out to us the right person. Sometimes we just have to play life out before it becomes clear to us which person to choose, or as it often happens, which person chooses us! This endless waiting game can instil in us some very valuable qualities, such as consideration and humility. It can teach us to use our common sense and to open our eyes. With time, warning signals also become easier to read. Often when a relationship starts we turn a blind eye to things that are obviously wrong simply because we so badly want a steady partner. The waiting game, although frustrating, generally sorts out what is best for us. This is why I always say to my clients that when it comes to romance, we need to set a few parameters in place and then just let things happen. If we push fruit ripe, it is never as delicious as fruit which ripens naturally on the tree. It’s exactly the same with our love lives. Here patience is a winning recipe. When it comes to true love there simply are no shortcuts. Love needs to stand the test of time, and indeed we should let it do so when we are looking for our soulmate. I wish you luck in your search. © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!

Retain your essence

One of the things that often happen when someone goes into a relationship, is that he/she seems to merge into the personality of his/her partner and often takes on some/many of the partner’s characteristics. One starts saying the same things, picks up the same mannerisms, goes after the same hobbies etc. By doing this, we change, and after a while we are no longer the person our partner fell in love with! Little wonder so many relationships fail and people fall out of love. We are all individuals and are made to stand out, not blend in. Each of us has something unique to offer our partners and bring to the relationship. This uniqueness makes us special and irreplaceable. Why on earth do we tone it down? One of the reasons we may do this is because of a poor self-image. We think we are not good enough just as we are. This may be our own opinion, but if we are thinking along these lines we are simply believing a lie. We ourselves do not go around thinking other people are not good enough, and they do not walk around thinking we are not good enough. It is a belief that we ourselves fabricate that keeps us thinking the worst of ourselves. This can hardly be called a worthwhile pursuit. Snap out of it and own your good points. Show them off to the world and develop them further. Make a point of always being your best self, and not a second-rate version of someone else. Your essence or soul is your own special blend of perfume and is your gift to the world. The world is not complete without you. You are a part of the music of the universe. Be visible and audible and show off your best you. This is the best way to be a happy individual and to make your partner happy as well. Don’t: Hide your light under a bushel Do: Always be your irresistible, irreplaceable self © 2011, 2013 Marilyn Welch. Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Introduction Society for Professionals and in the last year, one out of every three people who joined Perfect Strangers, met someone special! Visit our website to meet a variety of quality partners amongst whom you may find your soulmate!