Expect the Best

Late one Friday afternoon, as I was preparing for what was going to be a wonderful weekend, the phone rang and it was Louise, one of my clients. I had hardly greeted her when she went into a tirade about the last person I had introduced her to. She hauled me over the coals and complained loud and long about all the people on my books.

Reeling from the shock, I felt stunned, because another client of mine, Anne, who had a similar profile (both were early 40's, very attractive and CEO's of their respective companies), had met exactly the same people (also high-profile professionals and successful entrepreneurs), and had enjoyed herself immensely in the process. Anne had also always taken the time to thank me for introducing her to such nice men and they had liked her a lot as well.

They had met exactly the same people, but how Louise and Anne saw them differed like night and day. Anne was always prepared to believe the best of people and they never disappointed her. Louise was looking for faults and had a critical spirit, so people never lived up to her expectations. I have since lost contact with Louise and doubt if she has found happiness. Anne is today engaged to Fred, who is the man of her dreams, and is excited about building a future with him.

The above true stories have brought home to me that our attitude towards life and people is of paramount importance. We reap what we sow and like a magnet, we attract people to ourselves who have similar mindsets. If we work on ourselves to be the best we can be, we can confidently expect to make friends with the best kind of people. I have found that people who place their full trust in me as a matchmaker invariably go on to meet the partner of their dreams.

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Photos can be misleading

Our appearance is always of paramount importance as we never get a second chance to make a first impression. We are not always available in person for people to sum us up, so these days we rely a lot on photos. They abound on internet sites and we make our decisions whether or not to make contact with people based on their photos.

In my own profession as a romance expert, I personally find that photos can be very misleading. A specific incident comes to mind: One of the men on my books was about to meet one of my ladies, but he insisted on seeing a photo of her first. He asked her to email it to him, which she did. He then phoned me and was very worried about meeting her as he did not like her face and was most put off. I know this lady in question very well. She is very attractive and in my opinion it was a very nice photo of her. I almost had to beg him to meet her. I knew it was a good match in all ways, including the kind of looks he had requested. He most reluctantly met her. That evening he phoned me and said that her photo did not do her justice, that she was absolutely stunning and that they suited each other very well. She also gave me feedback that she was very impressed and that she liked him very much.

As we get to know people, they reveal more and more about themselves, and it is like peeling the skin off an onion, layer by layer. It is only when we start reaching the layers close to the core that we can really know whether this person is suited to us or not. Yes, personal appearance is important, but it reveals even less than the tip of the iceberg, so to speak. When we see a photo, we cannot hear that person, we have no idea of the kind of vibes they are sending out, and we make a judgement based on an extremely flimsy piece of evidence.

Photos give us a first impression, but we should always bear in mind that there is much more to a person than just their photo.

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