Photos can be misleading

Our appearance is always of paramount importance as we never get a second chance to make a first impression. We are not always available in person for people to sum us up, so these days we rely a lot on photos. They abound on internet sites and we make our decisions whether or not to make contact with people based on their photos. In my own profession as a romance expert I personally find that photos can be very misleading. A specific incident comes to mind: One of the men on my books was about to meet one of my ladies, but he insisted on seeing a photo of her first. He asked her to email it to him, which she did. He then phoned me and was most perturbed that I had arranged this meeting. He did not like her face and was most put off. I know the lady in question very well. She is very attractive and in my opinion it was a very nice photo of her. I almost had to beg him to meet her. I knew it was a good match in all ways, including the kind of looks he had requested. He most reluctantly met her. That evening he phoned me and said her photo did not do her justice and that she was absolutely stunning and that they suited each other very well. She also gave me feedback that she was very impressed and that she liked him very much. As we get to know people, they reveal more and more about themselves, and it is like peeling the skin off an onion, layer by layer. It is only when we start reaching the layers close to the core that we can really know whether this person is suited to us or not. Yes, personal appearance is important, but it reveals even less than the tip of the iceberg, so to speak. When we see a photo, we cannot hear that person, we have no idea of the kind of vibes they are sending out, and we make a judgement based on an extremely flimsy piece of evidence. Photos give us a first impression, but we should always bear in mind that there is much more to a person than just their photo. © 2010, 2012 Marilyn Welch Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you! Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details. You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.

Never be hasty

So often it happens that someone comes onto my books and is really in a hurry to meet someone special. That is when I see red flags and realise that this person could be on the wrong track. While it is true that my clients often do pair up quickly, it is generally not a good thing when someone is hasty. When you want to meet someone quickly, you are likely to make snap decisions which are not based on a sound foundation. You do not get to know your partner well before committing to a relationship and this can lead to huge regrets as time goes by. It is also likely that there are issues you have not sorted out in your own life, which is essential before committing to a relationship. When my clients relax and take time with their dating, it’s almost as if they get into a kind of “flow”, and what they want seems to come naturally to them. If they are anxious and in a hurry, potential partners seem to flee from them. Once you have released your anxiety about meeting someone, you have set yourself free and you are in a position to receive rather than to experience lack. So sort out in your mind what is bothering you, and approach dating without being too hung-up on results or outcomes. Take your time, have fun, enjoy each moment for what it is, and your lovelife will prosper. © 2009, 2012 Marilyn Welch Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you! Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details. You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.

Men and women differ

Men and women differ in many ways, but two of the ways they differ are brought home to me very often: 1. Women are much more particular than men. Think of it. If you line up a whole lot of women against a wall and ask men to choose, they will find it very difficult, as they will like a lot of the women. Just line up a whole lot of men against a wall and ask women to choose, and they will only select one or two from the whole lot. This happens in nature as well. 2. Women commit to a relationship far quicker than men do. So often it happens that a man and a woman are dating on my database and one day the woman phones me and says she no longer wants to meet any more men because she and x are seeing each other. Very often x phones me soon after to ask for another date! It is a good thing that we are different – it makes life interesting! © 2009, 2012 Marilyn Welch Would you love to meet your soulmate in this year? If you have read through my website thoroughly and feel that you would like to work with me, contact me for a FREE, no-obligation “Find Your Soulmate” session. We can then see what Perfect Strangers can do for you and get you started to meet the partner of your dreams. I am looking forward to hearing from you! Would you like to use this article? You may if you include the following paragraph with the article: Marilyn Welch is the owner of Perfect Strangers Professional Introduction Service and a sought after Relationship Mentor specialising in dating skills. You can read more of her articles at www.perfectstrangersdating.blogspot.com and download her Free Special Report “Three Ways to Finding the Soulmate of Your Dreams” by going to her website, www.perfectstrangers.co.za and sending her your details. You are welcome to email Marilyn Welch at info@perfectstrangers.co.za.